There’s this guy…he had a rough start. His parents died and he was sent to live with people who hated him. They either kept him locked up in a tiny room, or made him their slave. They spoiled their child, while completely ignoring him except to yell at him. He spent many holidays watching that boy be spoiled excessively, while all he got was an order or a reprimand. In school he was alienated, bullied and ignored. He grew up without love and without laughter or joy in his life. He was constantly reminded of how much of a burden he was, and how inconvenient his mere existence was to everyone who knew him. He had little prospects, and no self-esteem. He had been subjected to this abuse from infancy, and the only role models in his life were shallow, greedy and hateful people. They spewed hatred out of their mouths almost every time they opened it…it was all he knew. His future was very, very bleak and his past was even bleaker.
Little love, lots of hate, abuse and bullying – perfect recipe for a criminal, right? How can someone who was subjected to such hate and such maltreatment ever turn out ok? How can a child develop a moral compass when they have little to no experience with morals? Sounds like the making of a serial killer to me….or, of course, Harry Potter.
Seriously, have you guys ever considered how, on God’s green earth, Harry ever made it out of there so well rounded? I mean, sure nature has something to do with it but nurture does too. Even if you had the best nature, could you really fight off all that negative nuture? Maybe... Maybe he saw their horrible ways and decided he didn't want to be that person. Maybe his experience of the negative made him determined not to become one of them. Or maybe it’s just a made up story intended to make us feel awful for his upbringing and therefore all the more proud of his successes as a character and hero.
Regardless, it occurred to me while I was showering this morning (where I do most of my in depth thinking, ha!) that Harry had an incredibly awful upbringing and still managed to become a hero – at such a young age. Sure, there are people in real life who have similar experiences and turn out really well rounded and kind…but it’s a mystery to me as to how they can be so loving when they've only known hate. Or perhaps those small moments of love (a nuzzle from a dog, a wave from a neighbour, a smile from a peer) become so much more to someone who hasn't known much love, then they do to those of us who are lucky enough to be well loved every day of our lives.I am very thankful for being blessed to be well loved every single day of my life. So, so thankful.
I don’t even know why I was thinking about Harry Potter (I swear, it’s not because I have a fictional crush on him. I reserve my fictional crushes for Edward…the real Edward, not the actor who played him). I haven’t seen any of the movies or read the books in a long time but for some reason it just popped into my head and I decided to dedicate my daily “shower of thoughtfulness” to pondering how he managed to come out of such a dreadful existence so unscathed. I know, what an excellent use of my time and brain power. Haha.
Anyway, that’s all I have to say. Happy Halloween folks! I hope you have some super fun costumes to wear, and a blast trick or treating tonight!